Key to failure

I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody. Isn't this very true.  Right from the childhood we end up trying to please each and everyone in your life. Try to please parents so that they won't get upset with you. Pleasing teacher so that he doesn't flunk you. Then your partner ,then your boss. The list never ends. I wonder if there is ever an end to it.  How ever I find one man interesting i.e Ram gopal varma. i hardly know anything about him but one thing I observed about him is he does what he wants. Look at the movies he is creating.Most of them are flops, not because they lack something, its because they did not please the audience, the most important rather vital part for the movie 'the audience' is left out. He has some guts to do that. Do what he pleases. Well what will it give him at the end ? Self satisfaction of doing something he wanted or a lifetime achievement in not fulfilling what audience wanted ? I got a friend who doesn't go by the rules, rather I feel he acts it off. He never comes to outings ,parties or anything else. He feels he does what he pleases but I don't feel like agreeing with him . I find it a bit artificial. It looks as if he is not living his life but a life where he wants to be different and noticed. I think I will be a bit contradictory in this blog as even I am not sure of what is right. If I go by the movie "aa naluguru " it says no matter what always try to help people who are in need. Your just need to fulfill your needs and help out others. Well I tried to do it a bit too much . I have been seeing a old lady who can hardly walk. One day she asked me some money for food. So I gave her a Rs.100 thinking she can have nice food for at least 2 days and was very glad I did it but now everyday she expects me to give her the same. I set a wrong expectation . What I should have done is give her Re.1 daily for 100 days and that would have made her happy. If I give her less now she will not like it.So what do I do ?  Is  it a mistake on my side to try and help her out for some time and she expects me to do it everyday . I was reading a story yesterday where in a lady asks a maid about how the maid's kids are studying. The maid says she is not sending them to school as she could not buy the books for them. That lady feels bad and gives her the money for the books. Few days later ,the maid's daughter is blessed with baby and that maid throws a party in her slum and spends around 25000 . She says she has been saving enough for the event, "ee basti mein izzat ka sawaal hain". The lady has no words. Well the maid did have the money for books but for her the studies were secondary, "basti mein izzat" is more important for her. From this story I realized only one thing. Never give others what they don't deserve.  Do only those things that are worthy to you in your life.